Will you allow God to take you through the process of purification? Will you choose to be a wheat or a tare? When it is a mature plant, the wheat brings forth fruit, but the tare brings forth poison. God does not work without your consent.
Matthew 5:10. If we prayed through difficult times, we would experience God's love toward one another. Jesus said to be forgiving and loving toward those who despitefully use you or who are against you.