Manipulation is all about selfish gain, but Influence is about helping others.
Seeking personal development, being attentive to the things that will develop your vision. If you are the leader, you must cast a vision for the people you lead. People want to follow someone who is going somewhere and doing something. As you fill yourself up with the things that build your vision, eventually it will spill over into the lives of those you influence.
Your positive affirmations must be followed through with action. Think, speak and act in a way that is consistent with your affirmation. Think, say and do that same thing.